Ambushed at the Starbucks!August 9, 2007 at 2:18 am | Posted in Ambush, Body Image, Discrimination, Fat, Fat Acceptance, Fat Hatred, Kristin Bell, Life, Lunatic, People, Shame, Starbucks, Stress, Surviving, Weight, Weightloss, Weightloss Industry | 10 Comments
I guess it just isn’t my day today, or maybe it is. I have something concrete to write about. A blazing horrible example of fat hatred and overzealous skinny people trying to convert me into one of them. Here’s the story: I went to Starbucks to get a drink. I was thinking I’d like a Venti Blueberries and Cream Frappaccino. So, I get out of my car and I start to head inside. There is a group of people sitting outside at a table and this one woman gives me a weird look. I’m like: okay, whatever. I smile at her and go inside. There are a couple of people in front of me, so I wait and check out the display case to see if there is anything good. I spot these little carrot cake loaves that I just love, so I decide to get some.
Meanwhile the people from the table outside have gotten up and are coming inside to stand in line behind me. I hadn’t really noticed them at all. I give my order to the barista and then she goes to get the order from the woman behind me. The woman is COMPLETELY obnoxious when she orders. She points out that she can’t have any pastries or anything and can only have plain coffee because she has lost 105 pounds! Then she whips out a before and after picture of herself and is going on and on about her weightloss as if she has developed a cure for cancer or something. She was completely stupid and irritating, so I just tried to ignore her as the poor barista had to say “oh yeah, isn’t that just wonderful! good for you!” I wanted to vomit. I went and finally paid for my drink and was happy to be away from the stupid weightloss woman. I waited for my drink at another counter and then was walking out when this woman pops up in front of me and starts talking to me. She said “I don’t know you or anything, but I wanted to tell you about this great weightloss program…” I begin to cut her off and try to wave her away and she knows I am, so she continues, “this is my mom. She lost 105 pounds in the last year…and” I’m trying to get her out of my face by now, so she shoves her business cards in my bag without my permission. She is just shoving them in! I act polite and nice and leave the Starbucks as quickly as possible.
I seriously wanted to just scream at this woman. She could tell I didn’t want to talk to her and still she persisted and violated my personal space. She just assumed that she knew what was best for my body and my life by looking at me! As if I couldn’t sign up for whatever weightloss plan I wanted by calling one of the 5 trillion weightloss outfits that are on TV, online and all around me 24-hours per day! It isn’t enough that I have to live in this society and deal with society’s stupidness, but then I actually have to put up with some woman ambushing me in the Starbucks. I should have screamed in her face. I should have screamed “GET AWAY FROM ME AND TAKE YOUR STUPID WEIGHTLOSS PLAN WITH YOU! I AM NOT YOU! I DON’T HATE MY BODY OR MYSELF AND I DON’T NEED YOUR STUPID IDEAS ABOUT WEIGHTLOSS UP IN MY FACE AMBUSHING ME AT THE STARBUCKS!!!!”
It has been a couple of days since this happened, and the more I think about it, the madder I get. That someone would just sit in so much judgment of me and act like they are saving my life by getting in my face in a public space! Not only must this woman think I am totally stupid and oblivious to the entire world, but she must think I have no idea about anything! If this ever happens to me again, I am not even going to try to be polite. I am just going to scream in their face and tell them to back off.